“People think of depression as being just sadness. 
It’s much, much too much sadness, much too much grief at far too slight a cause.

(…) what it is that causes some people to be more resilient than other people. What are the mechanisms that allow people to survive?

Depression is so exhausting.
 It takes up so much of your time and energy, and silence about it, it really does make the depression worse.

Shutting out the depression strengthens it. While you hide from it, it grows. And the people who do better are the ones who are able to tolerate the fact that they have this condition. Those who can tolerate their depression are the ones who achieve resilience.

Valuing one’s depression does not prevent a relapse, but it may make the prospect of relapse and even relapse itself easier to tolerate. The question is not so much of finding great meaning and deciding your depression has been very meaningful. It’s of seeking that meaning and thinking, when it comes again,“This will be hellish, but I will learn something from it.”

The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality, and these days, my life is vital, even on the days when I’m sad. I felt that funeral in my brain, and I sat next to the colossus at the edge of the world, and I have discovered something inside of myself that I would have to call a soul that I had never formulated until that day 20 years ago when hell came to pay me a surprise visit. I think that while I hated being depressed and would hate to be depressed again, I’ve found a way to love my depression. I love it because it has forced me to find and cling to joy. I love it because each day I decide, sometimes gamely, and sometimes against the moment’s reason, to cleave to the reasons for living. And that, I think, is a highly privileged rapture.”

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“…I also believe that introversion is my greatest strength. I have such a strong inner life that I’m never bored and only occasionally lonely. No matter what mayhem is happening around me, I know I can always turn inward.”

- Susan Cain

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“It is the very problem of our time that people are caught by a pervasive feeling of meaninglessness, which is the most conspicuous symptom of the collective neurosis of our time. It is accompanied by a feeling of emptiness. The “existential vacuum” has increased and spread literally all over the world. Our industrialised society is out to satisfy all needs, and our consumer society is even out to create needs in order to satisfy them; but the most human of all human needs – the need to see a meaning in one’s life – remains unsatisfied. People may have enough to live by; but more often than not they do not have anything to live for.”

- Viktor Frankl, The Feeling of Meaninglessness.

“It is the very problem of our time that people are caught by a pervasive feeling of meaninglessness…

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“It is the very problem of our time that people are caught by a pervasive feeling of meaningless, which is the most conspicuous symptom of the collective neurosis of our time. It is accompanied by a feeling of emptiness. The “existential vacuum” has increased and spread literally all over the world. Our industrialised society is out to satisfy all needs, and our consumer society is even out to create needs in order to satisfy them; but the most human of all human needs – the need to see a meaning in one’s life – remains unsatisfied. People may have enough to live by; but more often than not they do not have anything to live for.”

- Viktor Frankl, The Feeling of Meaninglessness.

“It is the very problem of our time that people are caught by a pervasive feeling of meaningless…

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via TEDEd

You can’t help it; sometimes, you just get a bad feeling about someone that’s hard to shake. So, what’s happening in your brain when you make that critical (and often lasting) first judgment? Peter Mende-Siedlecki shares the social psychology of first impressions — and why they may indicate that, deep down, people are basically good.

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Cynthia W. Lubow: What It’s Like Inside a Depressed Person’s Head

“A major depressive episode can alter not only a person’s mood and sense of belonging but also his or her reality.”

“Major depression feels like intense pain that can’t be identified in any particular part of the body. The most (normally) pleasant and comforting touch can feel painful to the point of tears. People seem far away—on the other side of a glass bubble. No one seems to understand or care, and people seem insincere. Depression is utterly isolating.”

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“So when we think about labor, we usually think about motivation and payment as the same thing, but the reality is that we should probably add all kinds of things to it — meaning, creation, challenges, ownership, identity, pride, etc. And the good news is that if we added all of those components and thought about them, how do we create our own meaning, pride, motivation, and how do we do it in our workplace and for the employees, I think we could get people to both be more productive and happier.”

- Dan Ariely.